The Gays Can Donate Blood Again…



Well most of us anyway..


Blood safety experts expressed concern on Tuesday about lifting the nation’s 31-year-old ban on blood donations from gay and bisexual men, despite growing pressure from gay rights advocates, medical experts and blood banks. The ban dates from the first years of the AIDS crisis and was intended to protect the U.S. blood supply from exposure to the little-understood disease. But many medical groups, including the American Medical Association, say the policy is no longer supported by science, given advances in HIV testing. And gay activists say the lifetime ban is discriminatory and perpetuates negative stereotypes against homosexual men.


AIDS & #Ebola

#BlogLove Bug Chasers and Gift Givers by BlaqKharma #KharmaWorld


What are Bug Chasers and Gift Givers? When I first heard of these terms, I automatically assumed that a “Bug chaser” was someone who aspired to be like the Crocodile Hunter of the insect world. In my mind it was either that or the Orkin Man 2.0. I thought a “Gift giver” could be anyone: Family, friends, neighbors, etc. Boy, was I wrong. Well.. Not wrong, just slightly ignorant to these names.  It wasn’t until I began to ask questions and do my own research that I really began to understand what these words meant.  In my journey, I also learned of other terms such as: Serosorting and Serodiscrimination. The definition of these terms blew my mind. Ready for the truth? Here goes.

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Yet Another High School Teacher Exposed Male Students With HIV Story..

Stories like the following doesn't seem to shock me anymore. Unfortunately we have "sick" people in the church and schools now. It's still disturbing and stories like the following should be shared.

TERREBONNE PARISH, La. —A former high school teacher and track coach is accused of being sexually involved with a male student and intentionally exposing the student to HIV, Terrebonne Parish authorities said.

According to a news release from the Sheriff's Office, 37-year-old Derrick Nesby was suspected of having sex with a student at H. L. Bourgeois High School. Nesby was the student's track coach and a teacher at the school, authorities said.

Investigators said they received a complaint regarding allegations that a teacher was sexually involved with a student. Nesby was questioned and released. Through the investigation, authorities obtained a warrant for his arrest.

Nesby, who lives in New Orleans, was arrested Wednesday on one count of felony carnal knowledge of a juvenile and one count of intentional exposure to the AIDS virus. He denies the allegations.

Nesby's bond was set at $500,000.


There are rumors floating suggesting that allegedly this is not Mr. Nesby first offense. He has been luring the kids in other states such as Atlanta & New York..



Top 25 Cities w/ High HIV/AIDS Rate!

With the advent of the new anti retroviral drug Truvada, many people are getting comfortable living with HIV. Truvada, produced by Gilead Sciences, offers the first HIV and AIDS prevention pill. In the past, the official recommendation for HIV and AIDS prevention was abstinence and condom use. The pill is marketed to young gay men, persons in a relationship with an HIV infected partner and sex workers. There have been numerous reports on both heterosexual and homosexual persons taking Truvada and engaging in unprotected sex. But facts do not lie.  HIV and AIDS are ever present throughout America. Here are the current HIV and AIDS rates according to the U.S. Census Department. The US Census Department and the Centers for Disease Control have seperate databases for HIV Surveillance:

HIV RATES Per 100,000/Cumulative number of cases

1 Miami, Florida    37.2/64,573
2 Baton Rouge, Louisiana    30.6 /4,565
3 Jacksonville, Florida    29.1/ 7,292
4 New York, New York-New Jersey-Pennsylvania   27/ 223,508
5 Washington, D.C.-Virginia-Maryland-West Virginia    26.6 /37,916
6 Columbia, South Carolina    23.5 /3,949
7 Memphis, Tennessee-Mississippi-Arkansas   23.3/ 6,018
8 Orlando, Florida   23.3 /10,457
9 New Orleans-Metairie-Kenner, Louisiana    23/ 9,941
10 Baltimore-Towson, Maryland    22.8/ 23,875
11 Jackson, Mississippi   22.2/ 2,881
12 San Juan-Caguas-Guaynabo, Puerto Rico  20 /24,126
13 Lakeland, Florida   18.9/ 2,210
14 Atlanta-Sandy Springs-Marietta, Georgia    18.7/ 27,313
15 San Francisco, California    18.3/ 44,422
16 Tampa-St Petersburg-Clearwater, Florida 17.4/ 13,135
17 San Antonio, Texas 12.3/5,892 San Diego-Carlsbad-San Marcos, California        16/14,723
18 Charlotte-Gastonia-Concord, North Carolina-South Carolina    15.7/ 4,123
19 Houston-Baytown-Sugar Land, Texas    15.1 /29,556
20 Charleston-North Charleston, South Carolina   14.4/ 2,423
21 Raleigh-Cary, North Carolina    14.3/ 2,632
22 Nashville-Davidson-Murfreesboro, Tennessee   13.7/ 4,570
23 Fresno, California    13.5/ 1,829
24 Cape Coral-Fort Myers, Florida    13.2/ 2,034
25 Columbus, Ohio    12.9 /3,966


Promiscuous Sex In The City!


I have a friend of mines who I hang out with from time to time. He is much younger than I am as he is in his early 20s and I am in my early 30s.  Clearly we have our differences as a lot of the stuff he gets into, I have pretty much grown out of.  He likes to go to the clubs every other day while I tend to like to engage more intimate activities. 

There is one thing bothers me about him….

 He is VERY promiscuous and all of his buddies are as well. It's nothing for me to be told that he fucked this friend who fucked this friend who he fucked last week. They all been with each other and then some. The worse part is he was recently  diagnosed with HIV late last year.  I didn't find out about until he revealed it to me while I was lecturing him about the dangers of sleeping with different dudes and not using condoms.  Although, I was bothered by the news, I wasn't surprise. 

Even with this diagnosis, he is still out there with it. His friends are no better. He is well known for his music but what is sad is he is known more for gettin' around than his music. I remember I google his name and there was this forum post about him being a common hoe and everybody had him. I never told him about this because I didn't want to hurt his feelings.

 At first, I thought it was just a generation thing. I had my fair share of sex romps in my 20s but even when I was out there, I was very selective of my partners and I probably bareback  once outside of a relationship, which I still cringe about to this day.The one time I got an STD, I was in a relationship and he cheated.

I notice that age is nothing but a number in this situation because I see guys in their 30s, 40s, 50s and older still living like they are invincible in their 20s. They are positive but still having sex without a condom with strangers. Many whom they say they are "dating" at the moment or just buddies.

Sex is great and all. I get you have to sow your wild oats before you decide to settle (if you choose to settle down), but when is there a limit with these men? I get that bareback sex is probably better. Hell I enjoy it but why would you fuck raw with random men whom you don't even know his last name?

These days you can't go around fuckin any man, who winks at you. Ain't no dick or ass (or pussy) is worth your life and health. Living with HIV is not glamorous. Sure the meds are keeping you around longer but only if you are being responsible and not reckless sleeping with Tom, Dick, Harry & Tyrone who all have different strains of HIV.

I have a Facebook friend, who post obituary announcements on his feeds every other day of some young gay man's death. Most times they are only in their early 20s or 30s. I asked him one day about it. I asked him why are all of these beautiful young black men dying so young. He told me that most of the time, they had HIV or full blown AIDS and often died from complications of it. I had to unfriend him because it made me very depress to see these announcements on my feed, knowing that there is a possibility that my friend could be one of those men one day.

We talk about settling down and he really wants that for himself. I tend to shake my head at times because I fear that he will never experience that. Not because he have HIV but the fact that he has a reputation.

NO man of standards is going to be with someone, who has been with everyone. When you sleep with someone, you also sleeping with everyone they been with. 

Even with casting models for Luckey's Boyz, almost every potential model that I have talked to is HIV positive and not even 25 yet.

I am not trying to come from a place of judgement but a place of understanding.  I really want to understand it. Is it lack of self esteem? Is it wanting to be validated? Is it YOLO (you only live once so fuck it)? Is it lack of role models?

I am just trying to understand it.  I know that  I probably can't "save" my friend but I do want to understand him and many like him. What's really going on.

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