We loves eye candy. I should know because every time I post sexy picture of someone hot, it always goes viral. The world is full of it, on multiple levels. Adult entertainment industries thrive on visual stimulation. As a result, millions of dollars are made and spent in this industry. Going to see a gay male revue, or even having a male dancer make an appearance at a party can be loads of fun. You get to see, be around and actually touch a hot dude with a nice body, a phat ass or a big dick but what if you happen to be the boyfriend of one of a sexy gay male exotic dancer? There are certainly perks to dating someone who is so visually stimulating. But there are also some fairly obvious drawbacks. Let's take a look at them both.
Face it. You love looking at those toned abs and pecs. And the sight of your beautiful boyfriend in little more than his sexy undies drives you mad. If you've snagged yourself a male exotic dancer, you're bound to enjoy being one-half of a beautiful couple. Being physically attracted to one's mate is fairly important to most people. That being said, dating someone whose profession hinges on appearance can be a huge stroke to one's ego. Everyone wants him but you got him!
You think he's hot. Well guess what? Thousands of other men (and women) do too. If you're insecure, you can forget about having a normal relationship. You will constantly be worried about whether or not the patrons he's entertaining will be tempting enough for him to become unfaithful to you. It only takes one read-through of any tabloid blogs to realize how this problem plagues Hollywood players. After all, a hot boy is a hot boy. If he has a reputation for being a hoe, you should end the relationship as soon as it starts. If he was the most faithful dude in the club, he can still be tempted and there are pleny of snakes with apples ready for the challenge. Be prepared for them to try to come after you as well. I have seen people get beat up, bullied, car smashed, tires slashed and reputation ruined all because they were dating _______! Thus, it takes a secure man and a strong relationship to withstand the constant attention from others.
Loyalty And Faithfulness
This may sound strange as fuck, but your stripper boyfriend may actually be more faithful to you because of his profession. Think of it this way: many people who work at resturants that they never eat the food, simply because they're surrounded by it all day long. The same ideal may exist regarding your man's occupation. To that effect, some male dancers find that after being in loud, social settings much of the time, they particularly enjoy a quiet, romantic night and some are naturally home bodys and rather be in your company. Seeing hordes of men who treat him as a piece of meat (it's gets old after a while) may cause him to appreciate having a stable and nurturing relationship with you even more.
Like many black gay men in the community at large, A male exotic dancer may often be unavailable, physically, and emotionally.There is a multitude of reasons why this might occur. For instance, if your boo works mostly on weekends, and you have a typical nine-to-five job, it may be difficult to pencil in some play time with him on weekends since your schedules are slightly conflicting. Not to mention most gay exotic dancers of color don't make a lot of money unless they have a HUGE dick, some strange talent, or a well known porn star. And those individuals often have to travel out of town to make more money. Even if he is only doing this part time, between his night job stripping and his day job, he might be reluctant to going out or spending time with you. This means that when you're ready for a night out on the town, he may prefer to stay in and get rest. To that effect, you may also find that your Saturday date nights are already spoken for if he has to work. Some men may even discover that their sexy boo are not as emotionally attentive simply because they are surrounded by rowdy men much of the time. And if he has a reputation of being a hoe, you can pretty much forget it.
Many male exotic dancers enjoy lots of perks, financial and otherwise. You may find that your man actually has more money to spend on dinners and small getaways. For some, being a male exotic dancer can be like a celebrity. If he is popular and is able to snag a gig on the regular that means steady income coming in. This is where social media like Facebook and Instagram comes into play. People all over, what him at their events and parties. Not to mention if he is able to travel, you get to tag along with him and go to different cities and sometimes other countries. Also, his entertainment connections may help your social life as a couple. It is possible that he may benefit by receiving tickets to concerts or sporting events. Getting reservations in certain restaurants may even be more of a breeze. Another added benefit is that your hunky dude might be really good at managing money. Working in an industry that doesn't offer "regular wages" causes one to be more proactive where bill paying and other expenses are concerned. Thus, you may find that he's excellent at budgeting, or finding good deals. Not to mention, he always got cash on hand to spoil you!
While some are able to make a decent living stripping, a large portion of them don't that much money at all and find it hard booking a gig. First of all lets look at the totem pole of the adult industry. Women make way more money than men. Pussy is power.
Here is roughly the totem pole of strippers..
White Blonde Women
Ethnic Non Black Women
Black Well Endowed Men
Ethnic Non Black Men
White Gay Men
Gay Black Black Men
This is basically how it's broken down but may differ depending on the scene and cities.
Lets talk about Atlanta for instances. We have several gay clubs as well as clubs who have nights where dancers are featured. We have BJ Roosters which dancers are mostly white twinks, 'straight' non black ethnic men and every once in a while you might see a spot of color there.
Swinging Richards is more upscale but pretty much the same layout. Not to mention they feature a lot of the more mainstream white porn stars and the few blacks they feature are either extremely attractive or well endowed.
And then you have the urban adult entertainment establishments and clubs, who features a little big of everything. The porn 'stars', the wannabes, the escorts, the druggies, the sex addicts, and everything in between. One night at this club could see as much as 30 dancers dancing at one time. On a good night it's competive, on a slow night, you can pretty much forget it.
The pay is horrible. One club here actually pays as low as $50 dollars not including tips and most clubs often requires their dancers to 'payout' at the end of the night. This often leads some dancers to do some 'strange thangs for change'. In some of these clubs, they have VIP sections and 'dark rooms' where the patrons can go and do those strange thangs. This is nothing for the other types of dancers I mention, but for a man like yours, he may have to resort to stepping out on the relationship just to make that extra dollar and it's often more more which means he may have to do 'strange thangs' with multiple partners. Not to mention, in most cases there is no checks that being paid to them where they are able to pay taxes or collect SSI in the future. The job doesn't come with health and benefits so if your man becomes ill, he is on his own.
Blame It On The Alcohol, The Drugs And The Lifestyle!
Another CON is the drugs and alcohol is a HUGE temptation in this kind of profession. For one, it take a fearless and confident man to do this kind of job. Think about night after night of dancing bucket naked for dollars, while patrons are fondling you and sometimes even molesting you. After a while it will get to you. I have seen non drinkers and drug users end up strung out on drugs or stone alcoholics. Most of the time, they need something to numb all of that anxiety and do their job. This might cause them to do stuff that they won't normally do if they were of sober mind. At the end of it all, you are stuck to deal with all of that. If you are not used to that kind of world, you are in for a rude awaken.
These are some of the pros and cons of dating a gay male exotic dancer from experiences, facts and observations from others and my own. Not all dancers are the same and there are some decent individuals. This is merely for education and entertainment.